A side effect of leading the life you choose is that you automatically become more attractive.You become more real, authentic, substantial, valuable, passionate, happy, and present.This is an unavoidable stage in our developmental process because we have to form a self—or ego—that enables us to survive and hopefully thrive in our family and social setting.And the way we do that is by developing characteristics that meet our survival needs and pushing away any characteristics that aren’t valued or needed.Go to the gym only if you love it, do yoga if you love it, walk or surf or cycle if you enjoy those activities.A partner who you will be with over the long term will not make a decision about your worth based on a superficial aspect of your appearance.But inevitably, they become stifled by strong relationship patterns that form where people get stuck relating to one another from one main part of themselves that bonds with its opposite in the other person.These are called “bonding patterns.” So, for example, a very responsible man might become a “responsible father” in relation to his partner's inner “pleasing daughter,” and a nurturing woman might become a “nurturing mother” to her partner's inner “needy son.” If the woman doesn’t become conscious of her own responsibility, she will rely on her partner to be responsible.
You will be far more attractive to your soul mate if you look like when you meet them.
It is like we are unconsciously trying to complete ourselves through our relationships.
These relationships usually involve intense attraction at first and are characterized by feelings of completeness.
So just be yourself, whether that means you dress in corporate attire or resort wear, or casual clothing or more formal, or if your preference changes at different times.
You don’t need to be a particular weight or have large biceps or wear uncomfortable shoes if you don’t like them.