But then I had to think about dating from the perspective of a parent.He was still a person, and I would feel bad if I didn’t give him a chance just because he had a kid. However, I learned there was another child later on, an infant only six months old.He could have knocked up someone he had no intention of being with, someone he had a “situationship” with or someone who had and continues to have stronger feelings for him than he ever had for her.All these circumstances could lead to “baby mama drama,” and as the woman in this father’s life that drama can trickle down to me.
Not saying you both have to be BFFs, but there has to be some cordiality. Though the mother is not a part of the relationship, she is another woman whose calls cannot go unanswered because of the child.
It is also important to set boundaries with him involving his child.
For example, unless things are getting serious between the two of you, you shouldn’t feel obligated to spend time with his child.
If avoiding drama with the mother doesn’t seem doable, then run for the hills and never look back.
You will never fully get to experience or enjoy your relationship if there’s always a third party stirring the pot.